The other day I had a squabble with a lady. It was a difference of opinion about beauty and the size of wedding rings. She was in her mid-thirties, educated, living alone, with no children. Yet she reeked of deep pain to find a husband. To be fair, she had one of those beauties that could spark a misogynist question like, ‘why hasn’t a man scooped you yet?’ Although subtly I was thinking ‘well, she needs to have an all-embracing temperament to attract the best guy. Hey, am I allowed to say that in this day and age? Is beauty still a factor for a beholder who is seeking a date? It is not what you see on the outside, it’s what’s in the heart. Right? Okay, does this generation agree or disagree?
If I have to be honest, I’d say she’s beautiful,
but not so fine as a way to not see a man as beautiful as her.”
I made the statement that the more beautiful the women, the larger the ring. Yet in this woman’s case, she was drop dead sexy and still no ring. Then again, every woman is gorgeous in her own way so adding a bit of charming character could go a long way. Of course, she could have the best personality and be a beautiful as Lucifer, and her man will cheat. He could lie and deceive her even if she had all the best qualities. More women are more attractive than others today. You get my point? It beats logic. Some men are narcissistic and misogynistic pigs who quietly yearn to marry four women at a time.
You have men nature has blessed with charisma. Give these guys ten minutes with an attractive woman, and she might even stalk him. You also have women who the same nature has blessed with grace. Give her ten minutes with a man, and he is on his knees begging for her attention. Charisma achieves more than expressions, money or even good luck. The power of a woman-man relationship lies in the hands of the one with the most charm. For argument’s sake, let’s just define this appeal as that intense vibe that gives the other person loads of butterflies. Causes one to beg for attention, linger in companionship, or laugh at silly jokes. Can even influence one to copy what the other person is doing.
She told me a story about the hunt for a married man but while she was stalking him, she was being harassed by a guy that she could not stand.”
The problem is, only the luckiest people with charisma who meet someone with grace. What this means is when one person is pussy whipped, the other cannot wait to get out and cheat. That brings us back to my friend who wants the massive engagement ring before her fourth decade. She has an above average beauty with aesthetic values and education. But her grace only attracts borderline criminals. Emotionally immatured matured men who are less attractive, uneducated with loads of bad manners. These men are generally bratty, cocaine-crazed alcoholics who think they are studs. Bad Credit, dead-end job, lack of ambition etc. Needless to say, my good friend always gives in to these guys who then fulfills all his dirty fantasies with her. Eventually, she catches him cheating and leaves with a broken heart.
This brings us back to my friend who wants the massive engagement ring before she’s forty.”
The implication of that sad situation is she has wasted two years off of her clock. After a breakup, the woman goes back to being alone. But she soon has to resume her search for an amazing prince. Ironically, when she meets the next charismatic guy he does not floor her. All his of his mating tactics are cheap now. He smells her despair but instead of running for the hills he wants to heal her. And she sees everything in him that was in the last guy who cheated. My friend told me a story about her hunt for married men. The plan was to steal one unhappy man for herself so she stalked them while another guy who she could not stand was harassing her.
If you notice, throughout this conversation, not once was the word “love,” said.”
She wanted to date a doctor but would settle for a nurse. She wanted an accountant, a lawyer, an engineer or a person with proper credit and a good career. Okay. No. All she met were porn addicts who dress well. Unemployed men who chose to be unsuccessfully self-employed. Of course, like all “classy” women, she has her filter system. No Hip Hop thugs, no old men, no susceptible crybabies, no pot washers, etc. However, she required a wedding ring from a man who would adore her. As a devil’s advocate, I told her about an article I read on beauty and the size of wedding rings. About the charismatic man who showed up and proved to be educated. They had the proper credit and career. Besides that, they had their eyes on her heart and decided to go ahead and sweep her.
I told her what I read in the article. If the wedding ring was over $5000 and the wedding cost over 40 thousand US$, the study showed divorce is in the cards.
The article suggested that the simple wedding with rings between $500 to $1000 are more likely to be successful. However, the report also said if the ring was less than $500, chances are, the couple will get a divorce even. If you notice, throughout this conversation, not once was the word “love,” said. We were talking about marriage, and everything I heard was; age, charisma, ring, marriage plus divorce. I told my friend that I know a place in New Jersey, where she could get a wedding ring for $ 1,000, and it would look like a 10 thousand K ring. But she did not want to hear that. She insisted that her dream man will go to Burke and spit 10 thousand $US on her RING. *